Sunday 28 July 2013

We want them to know. We want to know.

Have you ever noticed how people feel the need to always post pictures on their social media in order to document their whereabouts and let the world know what they are doing and where? Have you also noticed how that very same action is not only done for places you visit once in a while or in a lifetime but for things in our daily lives?

It has become a social norm to take pictures of places we go or things we do and post them up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and so on. We go somewhere, we admire it for a mere two minutes, and then find ourselves taking a "selfie" with the place behind us, or posing with a landmark of that place or something that will identify that area. Forget places, we have even managed to make it normal to take pictures of things we eat, pictures of our freshly painted nails, cars, clothes, animals, restaurant names... The list goes on...

We find ourselves more engrossed in documenting and sharing our lives with others to a point where we sometimes are blinded by the true purpose of things or are taken away from enjoying what we are doing. The impact of social media on ourselves is far greater than some of us can imagine. It has made us "sharing fanatics" because we cannot go a day without sharing our problems, our achievements, our whereabouts, our relationship statuses, our food choice, and our pets (to name a few) with the world. We want people to notice us. We want them to "like our pictures or statuses". We want them to know how we are feeling today. We want them to know. It's as simple as that. We want the world to know our business. We crave the attention. We want to show everyone that we are enjoying life, or we are having a bad day or we saw something interesting today or we are just plain bored with our lives.

But seeking this attention is done is the utmost subtle way. The absolute main feature of social networking sites is to interconnect with people through websites rather than face to face. It's a way of communicating and networking with loads of people from the comfort of your home. It's just easier access to get yourself known to the world. Therefore, sharing things online is not abnormal because that's what these websites are meant for. They are built on the basis of sharing information with others. But where is the boundary to that sharing? Sometimes I feel like people just put things up online just for the sake of doing it, not because it is something fascinating or rare. It makes us more attached to our devices. We become one with our devices rather than one with nature. We are taken away from our social surroundings and thrown into a online surrounding (if that makes sense?).

Don't get me wrong, sharing things online is a wonderful thing because you can show your family and friends who are in another part of the country or world the things your up to and show them all the cool things you do. But some people on the internet take things to a whole new level and I always just wonder what goes through their mind. Not only people on the internet, it's just everywhere I look, people are glued to some sort of device, whether it be a phone or an mp3 player (are those still in?), an iPad or laptop - people are always connected to the internet world.

Here's an example of how attached some of us are to sharing our boring lives with the world.

For about a month and a half, I felt like I was from a different time altogether because I had a phone that had the basic features; texting and calling. Now, if you've read my posts before, you'd know I'm a social networking freak because I have every account possible for sharing things irrelevant to other people's lives. Although my phone was a touch screen, it was one of those earlier models, where the phone was still a brick (compared to the slick phones now). The internet was atrocious, and I couldn't get any apps on it. Texting was a whole other story. I had to use T9 (predictive text). My brain was fried by the end of the first week of using it because I actually had to sit there and literally spell the word out loud in order for it to appear on the screen. ANYWAYS, the point of this story is, when I was using this archaic phone, I always found myself thinking "Ou! I should instagram this" or "Damn! I need to post this on Twitter!" or "I need Tumblr to keep me occupied in this awkward situation." And it was unbelievable. Every time I caught myself thinking these things, I would feel ashamed because I realized I had become SO attached to those things that it was just a norm for me due to the fact I had a phone that allowed me to access them. And the worst part is, I didn't even get to go cold turkey on it because I found another way to get that information: my laptop became my best friend for a good while. I had neglected it before, unless I needed it for work. Soon after I moved on to the iPad. It was like I needed my fix of knowing other people's business and sharing mine. I couldn't just ignore it and not visit it for a couple of days. It was crazy... It still is actually!

The moral of this endless story is that we need to take a step back from our interweb lives and just try to remain in the moment of the situation. We need to just relax and not always have this urge to share things with everyone. Enjoy the things around you. Though pictures speak a thousand words, enjoying the things that are in the picture are far more important than actually taking the picture. So just admire what's around you with your eyes and memory, not with a camera or a bunch of words on a status.

Phewwww! Didn't mean to make this an essay! And I apologize if I go round and round in circles but I think the point was made, if not in the first paragraph, definitely in the last!

"I don't know the monsters you knew but I'm trying to forget the ones I met too.
Baby you could help me, baby I could help you"

Thursday 18 July 2013

Turn that frown upside down!

SMALL JOYS - Things I see on a daily basis that make me smile and brighten my day just a little more
  • Kids that make a tunnel in a heap of shovelled snow 
  • Bus drivers who wave at each other
  • Bus drivers who say 'Good Morning' to you and some variation of 'Have a nice day' 
  • People who hold the doors for you
  • Having a good conversation with a friend or family member
  • Seeing a baby smile/laugh at you 
  • When that one song that you haven't heard in a while or that you're in love with comes on the radio or starts playing on your iPod.
  • Looking through old pictures
  • Reading old letters
  • Starbucks Tuesdays 
  • Cute/Hot boys walking past you
  • Cliche snow-fall (which means there is no wind, it seems like someone is just sprinkling the snow from above)
  • Driving and reaching your destination safely
  • Your mum cooks your favourite meal
  • Going to a concert
  • Finding new music
  • Holding a cute baby in your hands
  • Sleeping and not having to wake up at a particular time
  • Having a small get together for no reason other than for the heck of it
  • Sunsets and sunrises
  • Nephews and nieces 
  • Perfect summer days
  • Beaches
  • Taking pictures of random things
  • Conquering a fear of yours
  • Seeing someone from your past
  • Peeing in the bushes (makes me laugh everytime!)
  • Seeing stars in a city
  • Seeing someone else accomplish something (small or big)
  • Roadtrips/long drives
TO BE CONTINUED...

Tuesday 9 July 2013

SURPRISE!

There is something shocking yet familiar about drifting away from people. It's shocking because you have such good memories with these people and then one day everything changes. It's familiar because somewhere deep down inside you knew that at some point, it would have happened eventually. And you know that things are going to be okay, but you still feel sad because you miss those memories, you missed those good times with them.

Life is full of surprises like these. One minute everyone is laughing, and the next, you're alone, wondering what ever happened to everyone and everything that was such a big part of your life. The abruptness of drifting is what catches you by surprise. It's so sudden and so unexpected (sometimes) that you don't know what to do. You are just forced to go with the flow and see where this burst of change is going to take you. You are stuck wondering what happened.

It eventually hits you that it's just life. People drift away. People lose touch for a while or forever because everyone is moving at a different pace and maybe you're on a faster pace or maybe you're on a slower pace. Nonetheless, it's not the same pace as the other person. And you realize that that's okay because you see that nothing is certain in life (nothing ever is). You just have to live it day to day and hold on to those memories and keep living. At the end of the day, life and time waits for no one. 

Maybe in the future, it will come back to the familiar place. Maybe in the same way it ended it will begin again. Maybe those memories and those good times and good laughs can be recreated and added to in the future. Maybe at some point all of you will be on the same track and things could go back to it was; where everything was familiar and you knew what the next day was going to be with this person.

"So I put my faith in something unknown. I'm living on such sweet nothing
But I'm tired of hope with nothing to hold. I'm living on such sweet nothing"

Tuesday 2 July 2013

30 Things Women Need To Stop Doing

This is something that every girl (who doesn't already) needs to understand and grasp as reality rather than living their lives always trying to be something they are not. This is for the girls who change themselves to fit society's views of "beautiful" girls/women. This is for the girls who cannot look at themselves and see beauty. This is for the girls who think that their life is going no where because of their appearance. This is for the girls who cannot accept who they are because they are afraid of society's opinions. 

Girls (and women) need to take into account that things are no where close to being like the movies and magazines. The world is a whole other place and has different kinds of people in it. The movies and magazines only illustrate a fraction of the world we live in, not the majority. So accept yourself for who you are and others will learn to accept you too. Because once you have accepted it, no one can hurt you, no one can bring you down and no one can make you feel like you don't belong. 
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I thought that this would be a good read... 

1. Calling each other “bitch,” “hoe,” “slut,” or anything else of that nature in a negative way. Don’t slut/bitch shame.

2. Concerning ourselves with how much or how little sex we are having and judging others based on how often and with whom they are doing it with.

3. Believing that there is nothing worse than being fat.

4. Obsessing about weight to the point of developing unhealthy habits and even disorders.

5. Comparing our lives to those of other women (and men, actually).

6. Being most concerned about how we look and what we’re wearing.

7. Classifying positions of power with “and she’s a woman!” There should be no “woman” leaders– just leaders.

8. Being afraid of higher numbers: age, weight, dress size. It’s like we’re all supposed to do everything possible to avoid admitting if we have numbers outside of the proverbial bracket of being “okay:” lie about our age, starve ourselves, etc.

9. Being angry and feeling oppressed and lessened by society’s imposed beauty standards but abiding by them anyway.

10. Taking a backseat in the whole “having a choice” thing and trusting that legislators will take care of it for us… or simply not caring at all about women’s issues.

11. Shying away from calling ourselves feminists when our beliefs would indicate such just because we don’t want the “label.”

12. Shaming and/or blaming other women for anything, but namely, sexual assault.

13. Being ashamed of or feeling the need to pretend that natural bodily functions like menstrual cycles or pubic hair don’t exist.

14. Saying that someone isn’t married in the context of oh, it’s a tragedy, but she was able to have a decent life anyway!

15. Feeling like you must have children eventually.

16. Thinking we are any less able and deserving of equal pay, time at the bar, active sex lives and legislative equality and representation.

17. Faking it.

18. Skinny shaming.

19. Fat shaming.

20. Deciding what a “real woman” is and what is not.

21. Concerning oneself with aging and the products designed to combat a natural process that you should be proud of: proud that you made it so far, and proud that you have wisdom lines on your face.

22. Obsessing over ending up alone.

23. Being okay with “chick lit” being regarded as a joke and something lesser because it’s lighter, more feminine, less serious and overall for women, so obviously, not as significant.

24. Using the terms “pussy” or “woman” as insults against men.

25. Complaining about relationships and friendships to the point of downright talking dirty behind people’s backs but never doing anything about it otherwise to mend or dissolve the relationship.

26. Calling each other crazy.

27. Being friends with people we don’t like because we don’t want to “start drama” and we’re inclined to “keep the peace.”

28. Wearing anything that makes us uncomfortable, just because we feel like we need to do so to be attractive.

29. Playing dumb or otherwise lessening oneself for the sake of being more attractive to a prospective other.

30. Accepting blame where we are not to be blamed.